Leverage for Growth Podcast

Episode 44: Let It Flow

Episode Date:Mar 18, 2023

In this episode, you'll learn about the three selves framework: Current Self, Future Self, and Becoming Self.

By understanding who you want to become, who you are today, and who you are becoming, you can bridge the gap between your current and future selves.

This podcast emphasizes that progress is better than perfection, and that making small, 1-degree shifts every day is more effective than trying to make big, massive changes. Join us to learn how to let go in order to grow and become the person you aspire to be.


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Show Notes

Episode Transcript

You are now listening to Leverage for Growth. Hey everybody this is Jesse P. Gilmore founder of Niche in Control and creator of the Leverage for Growth, welcome to the daily leverage edition.
Today’s topic is this “Let It Flow”. Sit back, relax and welcome to today’s daily leverage.

So this morning, I was doing my morning routine of stacking and reflecting on all of the work that I have put into my life and business to set a course, get the routines in place, the execution of the strategy and having the right people and teams in place to bring the vision into reality.

If you have been following me for a while, you have seen how transformational applying Leverage for Growth to my own business has been

I have had an internal journey of transformation that took me from struggling to simply having faith to move towards the life and business by design

I have continued to look at life and myself differently

I am finding that every moment is an opportunity for me to learn and grow

When I go with the flow and am not attached to the outcome of any particular situation but have faith that what I am doing matters and is aligned with my calling

Everything is lighter


In the Leverage for Growth programs, whether it is our course Accelerator, our mastermind Alliance or working with me 1:1 in our program Advantage

Each of them introduces the framework of the Three Selves

The Current Self

The Future Self

The Becoming Self

If you were to look at your life through the lens of the Three Selves, you understand that every day you are walking around with all three selves inside of you

The Current Self is the answer to Who are you?

It is made up of all of your past choices and experiences

Your personality

Your habits that you have been conditioned to do

Your belief systems


The current self is limited by the past and identifying solely with your current self keeps you chained to the decisions of the past

The Future Self is the answer to Who do you want to become?

The future self is your higher self

The part of you that you aspire to become over time

The Future self is who you want to be remembered for when you pass on into the next adventure after this life

The future self is who you are called to become

The gap between where you are today (Current Self) and where you want to be in the future (Future Self) is painful when you only focus on these two parts of yourself

There will always be a gap

Many people live their lives in this duality of Current Self and Future Self and this creates what is called a pattern of existence

The highs and lows of experience that lead towards peaks and pits

The average of these peaks and pits are what you consider to be normal

Without the introduction and embracing of your Becoming Self, you will feel trapped by yourself and the imposter takes over

You live life by default and there are ceilings to what you can experience in your life and business

The Becoming Self is the answer to who are you becoming in the process of bridging your Current and Future selves

The part of you that lets go of the past and recognizes the limitations that you have put on yourself and lets go of unhealthy and unproductive habits, routines, people, beliefs

The part of you that focuses on the progress you have made between today and yesterday

The part of you that focuses on hitting singles daily

The part of you that makes a 1 degree shift every day and in 6 months of doing so, you are a completely different person

If we know that if you continue doing the same thing that you did yesterday and expect different results that you are fooling yourself

Then the only other option is to simply commit to becoming someone different

Embracing this new version of yourself that is emerging

One of the biggest things that I had to let go of in the beginning of Niche in Control was drinking alcohol

That habit was one of the most powerful addictions that I got rid of

I had defined myself as a social drinker and someone who loved to party and had a high tolerance for drinking

Yet it was killing me on the inside

When I let go of that habit from my Current Self and embraced this new version of myself that was emerging, I regained my power

It took a while before I was completely sober but I focused on the 1 degree shifts I could make daily

I replaced alcohol with green smoothies as a representation that when I felt the desire to drink alcohol and regress back to my old self

I drank a green smoothie as a representation that the new me is healthy

Doing that after a few months made it so I felt cravings for green smoothies and no desire for alcohol

When you begin to embrace the idea that you don’t have to make radical changes in order to become who you want to become

But rather focus on making 1 degree shifts daily and focusing on progress

You are becoming more of the person you aspire to be

You are allowing yourself to let it go, in order to grow

Why is this important?

Many times as entrepreneurs, we focus on making big moves in life and business

That everything must be big, huge and massive

So we spend time thinking, planning, contemplating

Rather than making small moves today

Taking imperfect action now, rather than trying to get everything perfect

We get stuck in our thoughts and beliefs of the past

Yet we want something different than we have experienced before

We fall victim to circumstances, not understanding that we are creating them

We must realize that there are three parts of ourselves that want to be expressed and understood

By understanding who you want to become, who you are today and who you are becoming in the process of bridging the gap

You start to understand that in order to get what you want out of life

Simply comes down to letting it go in order to grow

And once you get into a rhythm that is working for you

Let it flow and don’t overthink it


Now it is time for daily leverage.

Where in your world whether in your life or business, have you been holding onto the thoughts, actions, experiences or beliefs of the past and it is keeping you from moving forward towards your dreams?

Is it in your life with your health or body?

Is it in your life with your spirituality or self-direction?

Is it in your relationships with your spouse, partner or kids?

Is it in your business or finances or team?

Once you have located where you have been holding onto the past and in order to grow you must let it go.

My question to you is this…

What are you willing and able to do about it today?

That is the end of our daily leverage. This is Jesse P. Gilmore and you have been listening to the Leverage for Growth podcast.

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